Can I Really Do This?

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Can I really do this?

Have you ever asked yourself that question?

Maybe you’ve trained for a marathon.  Maybe you’ve nursed a baby. Maybe you’ve taken on a huge project at work.  Maybe you’ve left a an unhealthy partnership or maybe you’ve stayed in one. Maybe you’ve cared for a dying loved one or maybe you lost them so abruptly you never got to.  Maybe you’ve tried to learn how to play an instrument. Maybe you’ve been broke. Maybe you’ve raised a toddler, an adolescent, a teenager. Maybe you’ve climbed out of the hole of mental illness.  Maybe you’ve started your own business.

In these situations, I’m sure at some point you asked yourself, “Can I really do this?,” the subtext to which is “How will I ever get through this?”  And if you’re reading this, chances are very good that a) you DID it (congratulations) or b) you decided that what you were trying to do wasn’t right for you at that time and you moved on (like a rolling stone).  Either way, you are still here, and that is wonderful.

I’m not going to play armchair therapist and analyze why we agonize so much over things.  I don’t have that kind of training, I don’t have that kind of time and frankly, I think it makes perfect sense to me when folks agonize over the hard stuff in life.  When you take on something big and challenging, it seems normal to have doubts.

Having the wisdom to know when to listen to those doubts and be judicious about your where you put your mental, physical and emotional energy is important, and as I’m learning, maybe that wisdom doesn’t come along until sometime after 35 years of age or approximately 1357 failures, whichever happens first.  

My current thing that’s causing me to ask this question (remember, the “can I do this?” question from the opening of this post?) is this wole massage business in general.  

  • Can I be self employed?  
  • Can I balance my work and my family life, without letting either suffer?
  • Can I work enough to offer a significant financial contribution to my family without sacrificing my health?  
  • Can I build a successful, service-based business without heavily relying on social media?
  • Can I roll out a “Free Massage Fridays” initiative and have it really serve the community the way I hope it will?
  • Can I maintain a blog that features so much personal vulnerability and still build a clientele and maintain readership?

When you really want something, but have never done it before, and don’t know of any models for doing it the way you want, how do you know if you can pull it off?  I’d like to think passion will drive the whole bus, but since I’m older than 35 and have failed at least 1358 times, I am beginning to suspect a few more components will need to be in place.   In addition to passion I’ll need:

  • Persistence
  • Courage
  • A sense of humor
  • Strong boundaries
  • An open mind
  • A big heart
  • Support

Reading back through that list, it occurs to me that it’s a decent recipe for doing just about anything that’s worth doing.  I like this list. Maybe I’ll write it out and put it on my refrigerator.

But since I’m here on this planet (most of the time) to learn and grow, maybe you’d be willing to share with me your thoughts on how to pull off something hard?  How you got through a challenging time, or accomplished a difficult feat.  What did you do to get it done?  Or how did you know when to throw in the towel?  Message me with your words of wisdom, ok? I like hearing from people!

Oh, and since I brought it up, if you or anyone you know would like to book one of the Free Massage Friday sessions, here’s that link!  Thank you for your support!  



My Very First Blog . . .

I guess I have a blog now.  


It’s not that I didn’t mean for this to happen.  In fact, I’ve been dreaming of a blog since I first knew they existed.  A platform for me to ramble and wax about all the things I think and care about, with a boundless audience via the world wide web?   Yes, please. But oh wait, I am a terrible editor and maybe they’ll see my typos. And I don’t really know a lot about anything, I just THINK a lot about everything.  And I have no interest in mastering SEO (search engine optimization) or cross-promoting or any of the other back-end tricks that bloggers use to gain visibility and ultimately get paid.  And oh dear GOD, the comments? How will I ever weather the comment poop-storm churned up by angry trolls or other folks who fire shots from behind blue screens in the dark of the night?


And yet, here I am.  




Because I want to be able to share what I think or know when it might be able to help someone, namely my clients.  I want to be able to broadcast useful information or updates about my massage therapy practice (and hopefully, someday, other offerings).  If I learn about how to perform orthopedic assessments on neck and thorax injuries (I’m doing that this weekend!) I want to convey what I learn in a way that provides some hope for folks suffering from those issues.  If I have an encouraging word or uplifting story, I want to share that with someone who might need it. I want to harness the power of words and the internet to bring goodness to my actual community, and if it ends up being helpful to someone beyond, all the better.  


And I want to do these things . . .  wait for it. . . without social media.  (Insert appalled gasp or doubtful snicker here).  I’m not saying social media is inherently bad, but I’ve seen lot less good come out of it than I think the return should be after such a weighty investment we, as a society, have made in it (100% guilty, right here!)  I want to spend less time on social media, and for that matter, on a device of any kind, and more time connecting with people in real life.  I want to create a business that uses the internet (and maybe some limited social media) in a smart and judicious way, but can still function if I lose my password (I’m ALWAYS losing my passwords).  I want to succeed by doing good work, a great word-of-mouth network and impeccable ethics.


This won’t be a snazzy, blog.  It’s not going to be linked up with my Insta, or require you to sign up for a free download just to read it.  It’s going to be the kind of blog that will make professional bloggers roll their eyes. And I’m cool with that.  I’ll just post a thing now and then and invite you to read it. If you dig it, yay. If you don’t, for Pete’s sake, don’t comment some nasty BS.  


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